Posted by Priya Deelchand
Monday, June 4, 2012
Count Your Daily Wins
It has been said that you and I tend to become what we think
about most. If we believe this to be true doesn't it stand
to reason that we would do well to take an active role as to
what we allow to become our most dominant thoughts?
Hopefully you would agree that we would all benefit greatly
by choosing to recount the daily achievements we experience.
No matter how small or insignificant you may view them at
the moment each should be acknowledged -- and framed in our
mind as they are -- successes. If we neglect to do so
there's a chance that we will end up focusing on the
occurrences of our day that don't help to build our own
self-esteem.
There's great personal power that comes from celebrating
both our larger achievements as well as the small successes
that we experience ongoing in our lives.
The reality is that you and I have the choice to allow
ourselves to gravitate towards thinking about the negative
things we have experienced, or we can choose to take a more
pro-active approach where we make the choice to re-live in
our mind the positive accomplishments of the day.
It really does get right down to making the choice to see
things from a half full versus half empty mentality. Make
the choice to see the positives and that's exactly what
you'll notice more of.
Action exercise:
At the end of each day just before heading to sleep take a
moment to write down several successes from the day.
Remember that they don't have to be monumental to count as a
success. Anything from meeting a new person to calling on
a new client and just about anything in between qualifies as
a worthy achievement.
After you have written down your daily list -- read over
what you've written and each time you do so close your eyes
for a moment and try to experience the positive feelings
associated with your given accomplishments.
By following this idea we can actually control what we
choose to focus in on. While we don't always have complete
control over what happens to us, we do have the choice to
focus our minds on (and thus give power to) those things
that are most likely to get us on a positive path.
My hope is that the ideas shared above help you to better
take control of your most dominant thoughts. Always remember
that if one person can succeed in a given endeavor then so
can you and I.
-- Josh Hinds
Posted by Priya Deelchand
Paying attention to habits
There was a fire one night at a convent and several nuns who lived
on the fourth floor were trapped. They were praying for divine
providence to show them a way out of the fire when one of the
sisters screamed, "We need to take off our robes, tie them together,
and climb down to safety."
Later as they were recounting the event to reporters, they were
asked if they were afraid that the crude rope might not hold up.
"Oh, no," they said, "Old habits are hard to break."
Do you know the story of the touchstone? It tells of a fortunate man
who was told that, if he should find the "touchstone," its magical
powers could give him anything he wanted. It could be found, he was
informed, among the pebbles of a certain beach. All he need do is
pick up a stone - if it feels warm to the touch, unlike the other
pebbles, he has found the magical touchstone.
The man went immediately to the beach and began picking up stones.
When he grasped a pebble that felt cold, he threw it into the sea.
This practice he continued hour after hour, day after day, week
after week. Each pebble felt cold. Each pebble was immediately
tossed into the sea.
But then, late one morning, he happened to take hold of a pebble
that felt warm, unlike the other stones. The man, whose
consciousness had barely registered the difference, tossed it into
the sea. He hadn't meant to, but he had formed a habit, and habits
can be hard to break.
Most of my habits are more like routines. I habitually arise about
the same time every day - too early, it seems. I exercise. I fix
oatmeal for breakfast. Most days I listen to the same kinds of music
and even read the same kinds of literature. (I hope I don't repeat
the same old stories.) My routines include those places I like to
visit and the people I like to see. It's all fairly predictable. But
what I call routine is more like a series of habits, some of which
work well for me and some I should perhaps look at a bit more
closely.
In fact, any behavior that I repeat, I reinforce. If I repeat it
often enough, it becomes habit. Soon I don't even think about it -
old habits are hard to break. Even good ones.
A Spanish proverb says: "Habits are first cobwebs, then cables." The
metaphor works well for "bad" habits. They first entice, and then
ensnare us like a cobweb. And if we continue in the behavior, the
web grows stronger and can be as difficult to break as a steel
cable.
But some habits can work in our favor. Such as patterns in the way
we live our lives. Or positive attitudes and healthy ways of
thinking. Our habitual attitudes and behaviors can either help us or
hinder us.
The truth is this: we form our habits, then our habits form us. So
we ought to pay attention to the habits we're forming.
Is there a behavior or attitude you would like to make into a habit?
Then reinforce it by repeating it at every opportunity. Is there a
something you wish to change? Then substitute a different attitude
or behavior and repeat the new one every chance you get.
When it comes to habits, practice may not make perfect. But practice
will certainly make permanent. Your habits will form you. So form
the habits you want and let them mold you into the person you want
to be.
-- Steve Goodier
Posted by Priya Deelchand
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